Are You a Family Caregiver?

Are You a Family Caregiver

The Family Caregiver; Where to draw the line.

Many people tend to fall into the role of a caregiver without even recognizing the fact that they are.

It’s easy to stay involved with your tasks and care duties, forgetting to see what’s beyond your life in the moment.  In many cases the stress starts to build and the overwhelming experience will sneak up on you.  Not all caregiving roles become distressing, but it depends on the environment and personalities at play.  It’s important that the family caregiver take periodic breaks and ask for help regularly to avoid a catastrophic event.

Learning from my involvement with Family caregivers, these are some of the common responses I hear:

“Well, my mom just lost her husband of 50+ years, and we couldn’t stand to have her home alone. What started as companionship and avoiding isolation, now has become my new job”

– and –

“It started out as needing help at home after a recent surgery but now I am over there every day helping with just about everything”.

– or –

“Dad just doesn’t want anyone in the house except me“.

My advice is to draw a line in the sand.  Make an effort to know what your limit will be once your educated about how bad it can get.  Don’t let yourself go past your comfort zone without asking for additional help.  I’m passionate about remaining a family member without building resentment in any relationships.  Your family may want it their way or no way at all.  Like any relationship, there’s compromise that should exist when there’s strong opinions that affect both sides.  If the family caregiver needs help but the care receiver isn’t comfortable with a stranger in the home, a family talk should ensue.  There are always options for help.

The Typical Family Caregiver

According to AARP’s Public Policy Institute and the National Alliance for Caregiving, the average typical family caregiver is 49 years old, female, married, works, has children and earns $45,000 annually. Those caregivers provide at least 21 hours of unpaid care per week average 5 1/2 years in that role with the expectation that they will be doing it a minimum of five additional years. Most report they are emotionally distressed.

Many because they try to do it all themselves. And the saddest part is the caregiver tends to not take time for themselves and often neglects their own health.

I often see many caregivers forgetting their roles of spouse, daughter, son and now becoming the caregiver and sometimes resenting it.

Learn to ask for assistance and know your local community resources and support groups.

The next article will identify some of these organizations, who and how to ask for help and what they can offer.

If you or someone you care about is a family caregiver struggling with balance and feeling overwhelmed,  Ask for help from family first.  If family lives too far or works too often, call us to schedule a No Obligation CAREConsult™ with a Love RightCare Service Representative.

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2018-08-28T16:23:01+00:00

About the Author:

I am a practicing social worker for over 35 years, mostly in health care. Social work has been both rewarding and challenging. The profession has allowed me to work in areas such as trauma, oncology, orthopedics, intensive care, psychiatric , hospice, maternal child health and other fields. I have taught classes, mentored SDSU students, worked with most of the larger health care companies in San Diego and recently went back to school for a certificate in school social work.

Acknowledging the need for improved resources and accessibility for the elderly, I have recently joined a home care company providing quality caregivers to clients in need, most of them wanting to remain in their own home environment with adequate supports.

Clients have taught me so much over the years. I am as excited about my work today as I was when I started and look forward to many more professional years ahead.

MaryAnn Lentini, M.S.W., P.P.S.

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